Building up kids so they have self-confidence and can feel good about themselves is NOT going to cause them to "crash HARD".
I have a few friends that grew up with ridiculous expectations, only now they realize that the best they can do in life is a job in middle management. Now these people are depressed. This is a real thing these days. It stems from childhood, it stems from telling every single kid that they can become president regardless of their abilities.
Children ALL have unrealistic expectations on life. That's why they are children. If they didn't, then they'd ALL commit suicide as teenagers.
Well no shit, but part of growing up is to have these expectations adjusted properly. Parents encouraging these unrealistic expectations is terrible! You end up with really messed up depressed kids once they get slap in the face in their college years.
False.
That's not teaching, that exactly what I said. You need to foster an environment where the kid builds their own confidence! You cannot teach confidence, you really can't. You can only encourage, and foster/nurture the development of confidence. I can't just tell a kid "Hey kid, read this book, and you will automatically be confident." The most books or anyone can do is to encourage it's development. You cannot teach it.
Your second sentence contradicts your first one. Fostering an environment(like school) is part of the teaching(nurturing) process.
The word nurture doesn't exactly mean to teach. It means to encourage. Foster and nurture roughly mean the same thing.
My overall point is that we need to slowly adjust kids unrealistic expectations as they grow up. Encouraging unrealistic expectations on life is only setting them up for a hard fall. For some, it can put them in depressive states. The fostering of unrealistic expectations goes all the way through college for many people. It's terrible.
I can think of 11780 reasons Trump shouldn't be president ever again.