dgun wrote:Still, that's physical force.
And I never said anything about not using physical force. But physically stopping a child from hitting others is not hitting them in any way, which is what the thread is about.
dgun wrote:And you seem to think this about a tantrum.
The way I dealt with tantrums is entirely different.
And reasoning is fine to a point, but if it becomes a consistent pattern a parent will be justifying every decision they make to a child.
I am assuming a scenario where the parent has already let it get so out of hand that the child refuses to listen to the parent anymore. I tend to use reason far before this point, but in the case of toddlers, this may not happen as frequently as we like.
Well, if you make consistently reasonable decisions, then you should be able to explain to a child every decision you make. Every child I have raised this way eventually figures out that I tend to have good reasons for what I ask, so they only ask when they can't figure it out themselves. This does not happen very often because I have taught them (through this disciplinary choice and other ways) to use reason.