MistyTiger wrote:Well I was thinking about siblings and sharing parental attention. Some siblings like to be the center of attention. I remember that my sister loves to have people paying attention to her. But when I'm around, she knows she has to share attention with me and she doesn't like it.
Or some people want all the candy on the table, when each person should get one piece of candy from the bowl. Some people think more is better. Some people just want and want and want, nothing is ever enough for them. These people are the problem.
Your sister suffers from mental illness. Many mentally ill people are excessively self centered in many situations. But, how responsible are they for their behavior if they got mental illness? I think everyone has had to sacrifice a lot in your family over your sister and it is tough.
But your parents cooperate for each other and for your benefit too. Some people do not know how to have limits and that is why others need to tell them--you got to change. Your behavior is not acceptable. When we grow up as children we learn limitations. That is the process of socialization.
To learn behavior that is appropriate or not.
Each culture and each history of both the family and the society at large has patterns that people follow. It is your learning environment. It affects us all.
I have read you for years. You should do what makes you happy Misty. No matter if others tell you that you have to choose something practical. Practicality is fine if you are married and have kids, and you need to bring home the bacon. But if you are single lady? You can do a lot of things that are about what YOU would LIKE and LOVE to do with your life!
Make yourself happy Misty. Choose all the things that have always brought you happiness and rediscover your dreams and desires.
You need to start being joyful in being YOU.
You are very intelligent, and smart, and dedicated. And you are a good person. Never question that.
I hope your family always realizes that you are the daughter that brings them love and pride and freedom. Your sister is stunted in ability to give. Due to her condition. You are not. So exercise that freedom every day with your family and cultivate your interests and dreams.
Viva tu vida Misty. Tienes el mundo por delante.