SE23 wrote:When a woman walks down the street, men don't think "oh whats her job, what are her friends like, what does she do for hobbies", no we are attracted by her looks and if you are some love struck nice guy, you will make up the rest; emotional state is important, but that goes for the men who have experience and want to settle down. Women on the other hand assess all of this, approaching a woman is the biggest test for a woman, and she will test his reactions, by frankly talking B.S to him, and seeing how he reacts.
While true in general, I suppose, that is by no means universal. There's quite a lot of variation in sexuality, beyond just homosexual and heterosexual--including levels of interest.
Personally I will look for red flags as much as possible when it comes to seeking a long term partner, all this "be a nice guy and you can both fall in love" is rubbish. Time and time again I see these males who have been infected by the disease, called niceguyitus having their hearts broken by chicks who have cheated on them with scumbags frankly. "oh why I treated her so nicely, I sent her bad poetry and dead flowers, why me".
Pretty sure actual commitment follows from joint obligations and--at some level--intellectual interest by both men and women.
Point is we have been lied to about our sexualities and natures.
Sure, we've built a culture that glorifies precisely the paradox being discussed in this thread. We've basically done this to ourselves.
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