TruePolitics wrote:I'm a man, and in my opinion the goal in life is to have sex with as many hot women as possible. Is this normal, or is being with just one woman considered more appropriate?
I can't explain why I feel this way, I just know that it is the way I've always felt since I was a teenager. To have sex with a woman seems to be a symbol of power, like the more women you sleep with, the more powerful you become. I think that most men understand this feeling, but it's not something I can explain to a woman, since she'll never get it.
I don't know, am I weird for thinking this way?
Of course it's natural and normal for a heterosexual man to be attracted to many women. I don't think it's nearly as common for men to feel that "the goal in life is to have sex with as many hot women as possible". There are natural and normal feelings that may underlie and motivate such a goal or statement, but there are also abnormal thoughts and feelings that may give such a life-goal or statement its special character. (By "abnormal" I don't mean bad or good, just how frequent or infrequent in the population.)
I know guys who have acted, especially in youth, as if that were their maxim, and who have said things much like you've said here. I reckon they represented a significant minority of the population of heterosexual male peers I knew in my youth, but only a minority. The distribution of attitudes like that shifts with the times, and I wouldn't be surprised to hear this attitude is more prevalent in the US nowadays than it was in those days. Though sometimes I wonder if it has to do with the testosterone bell curve, or anything along those lines.
Pretty much all of us, I imagine, know firsthand there's something to it. We know the sort of feelings and desires -- physical and psychological -- that are at play in such attitudes. It's natural to feel something like a flush of pride and power in sex. Then again, it's also natural to feel something like a flush of pride and power when you steal a car or beat the crap out of somebody; and I suppose in some circles, the more tough guys you beat, the more impressed people are with you and the more impressed you are with yourself. So you might try the corresponding maxim on for size -- "The goal in life is to beat the crap out of as many tough guys as possible" (so long as they're consenting adults, of course).
Personally, I'm not moved by either maxim. There are natural urges and psychophysical dynamics that belong to our animal nature. That's not enough to determine what our "goals" are or should be, or what our habits are or should be, or how we want to live our lives.
How do you feel about monogamy -- I mean, even serial monogamy? How do you feel about emotional intimacy, about getting to know a person -- even a friend or relative, but in particular a sexual partner -- over time? Do you find that sex gets better as you get to know your partner? Have you ever been in love with a woman? How many long-term relationships have you had? And so on.
Promiscuity comes naturally to monkeys like us, to male and female human beings. So does pair bonding. Human nature doesn't determine how each of us will sort it all out. It's a personal choice, conditioned by cultural influences and individual psychophysical differences, among other things.