Selfish to go only for people older and more experienced than yourself. You are basically holding your male age group peers to a higher standard than yourself. You are going for an older man partly as an admittance that you are inexperienced also yourself. It is hypocracy. You are looking for a father figure in your relationship, instead of looking for a man who will grow with you.
We are not talking about grading on a curve. This is about love and sexual attraction. No woman has any responsibility to "train" young lovers. The very idea is preposterous.
Look world. There is one time in your life that you get to be completely selfish. That is in your selection of lovers. If a woman is out to "get laid" she usually has no problem doing that with whatever general group she wants. My seven decades of experience tells me that this is not that big a deal.
As much as we want to be all modern and shit the real deal is that dating is about mating. Pair bonding. Marriage in most cases. That is where this is going. Telling a woman she should feel pity for a young man and fuck him to maturity is absurd and frankly pretty needy.
As I got older I found that younger women were more attracted to me. Why? Because I didn't turn the stereo up when they got in the car? Because I smell good? Have money? Confidence? Because I was not frantically trying to get laid at the earliest possible moment? Or was it because I actually was experienced enough with women in general to not be scared shitless of them? That is the real deal. And do you know what happens when a young man gets over his abject terror of women? (And trust me. They all are terrified whether they know it or not.) When he gets over his fear he actually listens to women. What a concept! A man asks a woman a question, actually waits for the answer and listens to it. Then they have this thing called a "conversation". Young men don't do that with women. They talk at women a lot but they suck at listening. And here is the revelation. If you actually listen to women, share with them, learn to see things from their perspective and add that perspective to your own do you know what happens then? You come to like them. I am not talking about loving on them. I am not even talking about loving one or more of them. I am talking about liking them as individuals and equals. And young men, when you learn to respect, value, and honestly see women not only as your equals, but as your friends....you will be irresistible. Not to all women. Maybe not even to most women. But to the ones that matter you will have a good chance of being the one.
Young men see women as the keepers of the keys to the kingdom. They don't see women as just as nervous and apprehensive as they are. Hell. Most guys can't even admit to themselves that they are scared. They see women as conquests. When women perceive that this is the nature of the relationship...conqueror/conquest...they play to win and almost always do. All it takes for them to win is one word.....no. But this adversarial relationship does not lead women to be more confident. Just the opposite. It makes them even more suspicious. Older men know this and are fine with it. They expect women to be apprehensive and have patience. They know that what is true for them is probably true for the woman too.
Young men are not better lovers. Sex is not a sport. Women love with their brains as well as their bodies. While men are looking for any port in a hormone storm women are far more involved in sex than that. 'Christopher' can be a sexual athlete marathon fucker but if he starts the race before the bell goes off he is going nowhere. And young men do that all of the time. Get to first base...second base....steal third....... your out.
There is a story about an old bull and a young bull standing on a hill. Below them in the valley is a herd of cows. The young bull excitedly says to the old bull, "let's run down there and get us one". To which the old bull answers, "no son. Let's walk down there and get them all.
Relationships are complicated things. Young people don't do complicated relationships very well. There is no shame in this. Complicated takes time and experience. Older men know that they have both.
One last thought. It must be said that there are plenty of 30-40-50 year old boys. You can't assume that old = mature. But it frequently does.
Here is a verse from a song:
"How to handle a woman?
There's a way," said the wise old man,
"A way known by ev'ry woman
Since the whole rigmarole began."
"Do I flatter her?" I begged him answer.
"Do I threaten or cajole or plead?
Do I brood or play the gay romancer?"
Said he, smiling: "No indeed.
How to handle a woman?
Mark me well, I will tell you, sir:
The way to handle a woman
Is to love her...simply love her...
Merely love her...love her...love her."
"We won with poorly educated. I love the poorly educated." Trump.
"I could stand in the middle of Fifth Avenue and shoot somebody, and I wouldn't lose any voters, okay? " Trump
The American dream is about freedom. Pelosi