By Naxield - 22 Jun 2017 22:02
- 22 Jun 2017 22:02
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Hey all! I was wondering if anyone has ever been in a very nice and healthy relationship with someone with different values than you? I'm a socialist. I am going to veterinary school in the US to become a wildlife veterinarian, hopefully with a non-profit organization that deals with wildlife conservation and rehabilitation. I am going to be in school almost a total of 9 years by the end of it, with my median salary being between 90k-100k US $ a year when I really get into full-time work. Obviously this is really good money to me, an immigrant from Colombia that grew up poor and undocumented in the States. My boyfriend however, is a white Cuban from Miami that grew up pretty privileged. He went to business school at the same undergrad school as me and only has his Bachelor's and is already working with Procter & Gamble and making six figures soon. He's becoming a corporate monster (an inside joke between us and some friends). I love him and it makes me very upset that I'll never make as much as him trying to save the world while he works for a company that tests on animals and who's suppliers obtain palm oil that is killing orangutans and other endangered species.
How do I cope with this? I feel guilty for being with someone that supports all this (he claims to be as much of an animal lover as me, which is not true considering his job and that he still eats animals) and i feel guilty for also being a benefactor of P&G because my partner is making enough alone to support us both (something I also used to be insecure about, because despite 9 years of school, I'll never make as much as him, with just a Bachelor's). I'm not militant about my socialist stances, but obviously it bothers me to be in love with someone that is profiting from the very industry I am myself fighting against.
How do I cope with this? I feel guilty for being with someone that supports all this (he claims to be as much of an animal lover as me, which is not true considering his job and that he still eats animals) and i feel guilty for also being a benefactor of P&G because my partner is making enough alone to support us both (something I also used to be insecure about, because despite 9 years of school, I'll never make as much as him, with just a Bachelor's). I'm not militant about my socialist stances, but obviously it bothers me to be in love with someone that is profiting from the very industry I am myself fighting against.