[Oxymandias]

@Naxield

Tell her that the only way your family can accept her is if she becomes socialist. Then have a ritual or ceremony where your girlfriend becomes socialist. Afterward you live happily ever after until you have relationship issues when you realize you just converted your girlfriend into an ideology she doesn't agree with.

All jokes aside, the solution is simple. You should sit down with her and describe each others political beliefs. Afterward you ask yourself and her whether or not she could respect those beliefs. Chances are, the answer yes for both of you unless she's or your a really big dick. Economic political ideology doesn't really effect your regular daily life and not even social political ideology does.

[Ned Lud]

The great question is how much you have in common - no two people are going to agree on everything, and the world changes all the time. Is the disagreement big deal to both? If so, pack it in, but above all don't built it up . My father was a parson, my mother an atheist, but she thought the whole thing was equivalent to discussing the existence of Father Christmas, and made a virtue of going along with it. Similarly, my wife reckons to be English, which I regard as an east-British fantasy, so we get by despite my finding that fantasy ludicrous. If you really want to be together, you'll manage.

[One Degree]

I think what people are so nicely saying is if your politics are that important to you, then you have your priorities all screwed up. Politics is a game and games should not be taken seriously.

[Pants-of-dog]

Break up with him.

I dated people who have different politics than me. Or made compromises for love. It works for a while, but you always feel like you are giving up something just to make someone happy, and they do not even notice or care about the thing you are giving up.

I did this because I thought love and other relationships are partly about compromise. About learning how to gomwithout to make someone else happy. And so I did that for years. Raised kids. And it still didn't work.

Then I met someone who is perfect for me. No compromise. We have the same ideological goals, even if we do not have the exact same ideology (I was raised Marxist, she is a radical indigenous sovereignist).

You only have one life. Do not waste it trying to satisfy someone who does not care about the things you care about.

[One Degree]

I don't recall anything my wife and I initially agreed on. It was nice to have such a convenient person to argue with. Over time we acquired similar views different from both our starting points. A common commitment to the relationship is what matters.

[Senter]

Are you even still here, Naxield? Or am I talking to myself?

Listen dearest, I just turned 70 and was married three times. The first lasted a painful 6 months. The second lasted 2 years. This one has lasted 35 years. We learn. But my point is that I have had plenty of experience with relationships and commitments. And I want to offer you my thoughts with my experience as my background for what I'm going to tell you.

You and your boyfriend have a serious conflict.
Don't marry until you resolve your conflict.
Your conflict is a clash of values that guide your career choices.
For your relationship to work, one of you must give up your values/goals and adopt those of the other, or you will find yourself living your life in conflict with your values. And that can lead to a life of anguish, self-blame, loathing self or the other person, and failure of the marriage.

Others here have said that conflict in their marriage was eventually worked out and both changed. But was it a conflict with respective commitments to conflicting careers? Careers are very significant in importance. They are life. When you have studied and trained for 8, 9, 10, 12 years to enter your chosen career field, it's not a trivial thing.

Only you and your boyfriend can decide whether your respective careers are something you can give up for the marriage or not. But I cannot recommend it.