Suntzu wrote:Sex has been a commodity for thousands of year. Rape is a crime as it should be. Trading sex for money or career advancement should be legal. Don't confuse coerced sex with rape. Don't confuse willing sex by underage girls with rape.
Sex might be a commodity but sex workers suffer emotional and physical problems and always have. Throughout human history, syphilis, gonarrea, venereal disease, the clap, crabs, herpes simplex, clahmydia (that leads to serious consequences such as lifelong infertility and very dangerous tubal pregnancies that end in death) etc etc. AIDS, HIV, and sexually transmitted infections. I worked with people who had those issues and they caught it unsuspectingly many times. Some of them being sex workers, and others being very uncareful with their sexual choices. It all has consequences. For me the worst of it is how they feel after they get a deadly lifelong virus like HIV---that is no longer as bad as it once was, but it is still life altering. These people have to reveal their health status to potential new sexual partners....many just accept celibacy forever. They suffer tremendously from low self esteem, self rejection.....being socially isolated.
I remember one sweet woman. When she left my office I must have wept for a long time. It was heartbreaking. She was born a hemophiliac, and as a child had to have blood transfusions if she even got minor cuts or internal bleeding. In the mid 80's she got a blood transfusion when she was a kid. It gave her HIV. Not through anything she did or chose. She was HIV positive and had to struggle for years with that and taking a very expensive injection called K shot. It costs about $25k a shot. Over a years worth of shots? About one million dollars and for the HIV meds? About $36k. No private insurance would take her so she could only be on medicaid. State insurance. That meant if she wanted to keep her health insurance from the state she could not make more than $1125 dollars a month. At all. If she went over even by one dollar she might lose her insurance. So she only worked jobs that were low paying. Even though she was very bright and wanted to be a doctor and had dreams. All her dreams she had given up on. She would socialize at work. And put on her makeup and comb her hair and dream of being someone's wife or girlfriend. She never was. Never got the courage to tell someone who she was.....what kind of disease she had. The stigma, the fear....she would tell me, "Tainari, I just want to go to the movies and he can sit next to me and hold my hand and we can eat a pizza and go for a beer. And maybe he can hug me and say how I look so pretty.....wouldn't that be nice?" She dreamed of maybe going to Las Vegas for a day and seeing some sights but she never had enough after paying rent and basics.
I remember her face. Why is she supposedly worthy of compassion and the others who might have had sex for money less worthy? For me all human beings need love, dignity, respect, and great care. Someone who cares about them and loves them.
I loved her. I think she knew that...she always did.
I am sorry, but this topic of sex and health and people thinking sex is something light and easy to trade, or exchange for some grubby dollar is not my value system. It never will be.