I know this is an old thread and I hope the owners and administrators of the forum don't mind me bringing this topic back up. Would this be regarded as "necro posting" so to speak? I was reading about how people use Tinder. When I was a single man I NEVER used Tinder and if I were ever single again, I STILL wouldn't use Tinder. I mean, you don't know those women you are meeting on Tinder. I like to get to know somebody first and for a little while before I take things to another level.
When I was single, most of the women I met were at coffee shops or bars. I had some pretty mad confidence even though I wasn't very good looking and after a while I got good with being witty too when you get some of the ladies with a bit of attitude and had some good comebacks that didn't make me look needy, desperate, mean or disrespectful and made me look "smooth."
My first wife (whom I later divorced) I met when I was drunk talking to her over the phone. That was a LONG time ago (I don't drink anymore). I'll be honest with you, I never really thought of myself as a handsome man. I didn't have the advantages that tall handsome dudes had. It was just mainly confidence and going up and talking to the ladies in a sort of "smooth" fashion or as you like to say as a "regular person."
Personally, I learned a ton in my past relationships and I think it has enabled me to have a very happy marriage today.
"Just do one thing or the other, don’t try to be two people at once." -Arthur from Red Dead Redemption 2