My question was more sarcastic than anything.
Here's my unprofessional sociological analysis of this question:
In Middle school and High school, the guys that get all the attention really are the dicks/assholes. They take higher risks, do pranks, etc. etc. In short, the "bad boys". Middle school and High school girls do in fact respond to this type of guy and like it. Many will not give regular dudes the time of day or maybe even treat them like shit too. However, what happens is that many of these women eventually mature, and eventually realize that those "bad boys" were actually a bunch of losers, so then they start looking for all the guys that they overlooked/ignored or even treated like shit in High school.
Now, when you move forward to adulthood you see this:
The "bad boys" that do not grow out of these behaviors will tend to attract the women that also never grew out (i.e. matured) of going after bad boys. The "bad boy" probably has to escalate their bad behaviors from mere pranks to being a bigger ass, maybe engage in crime, or be abusive to others. The women, are used to this, and think this is the way things should be. These are the confused women that will stay in bad relationships.
The "nice guys" from High school are traumatized from their younger years. They see that being nice got them ignored, or worse, actually treated like shit. I think these guys end up going 1 of 3 ways, and this dove tails in to what @Unthinking Majority said about 3 types of women.
Instead, I'm going to look at the other size of the coin and look at 3 types of guys:
- They grow to hate women, become abusive towards them, resent them, become MGTOW types. Basically, they become the same thing as the adult "bad boy above". There are subtypes of this personality though, many will claim they are an authentic "bad boy" but they're just a loser living in a basement on the internet all day (i.e. involuntary celebate). None the less, collectively, These are the guys people like to call "Toxic males", and the popular media makes it seem like most guys are these guys.
- They grow to think that the only way to get a women and keep her attention/happiness is to be subservient to them. After all, they were always ignored (or treated poorly) so they internalize that the only way to get and keep a women is to do exactly every thing she say's. Be her bitch. Both "good" and "bad" women can end up with this type of guy. If she's a "good" women, she probably won't treat the poor sucker like shit and actually appreciate him some. So maybe that's not so bad lol. These are the type of dudes that will say they are feminists, will go to women's rights rallies, hold their woman's purse (yea, I don't do that that, don't give a fuck what you say women), etc. These are the people the popular media likes to call "healthy/good males".
- Guys that don't let the past dictate their behaviors in the the future. Learn not to resent women, learn to treat them well, but to also have a backbone. I think the popular media conveniently ignores these guys, because it's not as easy to bucket them as "bad" or "good", and in fact, these are the type of males we should all be trying to raise our young men into. I don't believe these males are rare, I see most of my friends as this type of male, and I've seen friends be male #1 and evolve into this type of male as well. I've also seen male #2 evolve to this too.
The reality is, all dudes are probably a mix of all of the above, but we're are likely MOSTLY one of those.
One thing that gets missed in all of this, is that young women have a STRONG role in influencing how men behave as adults. Yes, I'm saying, that middle school and high school girls are a part of the reason "Toxic" males exist. I think this is something that gets ignored because it doesn't fit into the easy to understand "toxic masculinity" story that's focused on just men. I think this is a legitimate complaint from the MGTOW crowd. Not that I support them, but again, people are never 100% wrong or right in anything, there can be legitimate points even from seemingly despicable/dumb/weak people.
Anyway, OF COURSE I'm Guy #3... right @noemon ?? RIght? RIght??? :looks around very nervously for his wife:
I can think of 11780 reasons Trump shouldn't be president ever again.