wat0n wrote:Why does anyone even need to have a wedding?
I'm getting married next month but we'll keep expenses to a minimum. We won't even have a proper wedding, we can throw a party a few years from now once we're set up.
Well, you and I will have something in common then. I got married through the judge in 1984. I used a Spanish silk dress in indigo blue. 25 years later I had a wedding in Mexico that was on our anniversary vacation. But it was also only civil because we planned on adopting a kid from Mexico. No money dropped on that one.
The last one was a religious ceremony in a Catholic chapel a long time ago. I think I paid $40 dollars for the dress from off the rack. Some flower bouquet that was very pretty bought at Safeway (red,yellow and orange roses). The cake, ceremony and dinner was provided by some nuns. For free. She gave us a big bible. For a gift. It was a sleeveless halter style with embellished lines in the bodice and white satin.
They liked me. I taught a lot of the nuns from India Spanish. They appreciated it and did the wedding thing for us. Total for that wedding was about less than $200 dollars. I bought the veil for $10 and steamed it myself with some pearls stuck on it.
If ever I marry again though....I am spending a lot more. It is worth it to have a big wedding in Mexico and invite your friends and family and do it up. But it will have to be less than 15k. My mother always wanted a huge wedding with a big band playing El Gran Combo style music or Cuban charanga and Armando Manzanero bolero tunes. Big huge Cuban, Puerto Rican and Mexican food. A large gorgeous old Spanish Hacienda style of wedding with super beautiful flowers and professional photography.
I hope to give my sons nice weddings if they ever get married. I hope they find the right wives for them.
No, I never went for big expensive stuff. I do think you should spend if your mother wants a big wedding. Lol.
Does your mother want a big wedding @wat0n ?
My mother's wedding was on February 25,1961. In New York City. They went to city hall and got married there. The reception was in my grandparents on my mother's side apartment. They invited the immediate family and some close friends. My father had an Italian guy that was an opera singer sing at their reception. Puerto Rican food and a cake from Valencia Bakery in the Bronx that is still in business. If you look up Valencia Bakery? In the Bronx? They have the same cake they sell for weddings in their website. It has not changed at all.
They did this cute wedding album where mom has a white short lace cocktail gown with a poofy skirt and those pointy white stiletto heels that were popular in the early sixties and her hair and makeup done really well. My father in a suit with his glasses and smiling big. A photo of them cutting the cake and kissing too. I thought that was cute.
They met three weeks before the wedding. So they had only known each other for three weeks before getting married. That was fast. I think couples nowadays wisely take more time. In the fifties and sixties they were a lot faster. It was a different time.
My mother wanted something fancy for me. So if there is another wedding in my future? I would go big. If not? Enjoy your kids weddings.
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