- 24 Feb 2018 14:35
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Do you see a recurring theme here Paddy14? Look at what Tainari said:
Snapdragon said:
Misty Tiger said:
Stormsmith said:
Ok Paddy. Four women. What is the recurring theme? Boring Immature.
So what do you do about it?
First you have to decide what you are really looking for. Are you just out for any girl who will let you into her bed or are you looking for someone special? I will assume special because if all you want is to get laid, you can spend your date money on a hooker. I did not recommend that you look for the "easy" girls because if you want to be a man you will realize that the easy girls have feelings too and that you are too much of a man to hurt them along with the boys.
So if the deal is that you want a real girlfriend then you have to ask yourself some hard questions. The best question to start with is this: "Of all the things I am interested in and that I bring to the table, what kind of girl would like that?" Perhaps you like plays and theater. Go join a local theater company. You don't have to be an actor, be the prop guy if you like. If you like art, volunteer at an art museum. When you meet a girl there, what can you both talk about? Art. Is it boring? Nope. If the girl thought it was boring, she wouldn't be there. There are clubs or organizations that cater to all tastes. Be sure you genuinely like and want to learn about the one you are considering and go for it.
If I found myself single again, I would do even more charity work. For two reasons. Most importantly it will help others. Then it will help you mature as you see more adult stuff and come to grips with it. As far as meeting women is concerned you will meet kind and generous ones. And they will see you at your most kind and generous. The bonus is that you will not be seen a immature when you are cooking for homeless people (for example) and you will have something in which you are both interested to talk about. You will be working together and conversation is just natural under those circumstances. I have seen this so often. As I type I am thinking about an average looking 5'9" guy who married an over 6' girl (stunning by the way) who he met working at the soup patrol. Outside of the charity there was practically no chance that they would have ever hooked up. Working together, feeding homeless people, they got the opportunity to talk and come to like each other. Love came eventually and then two kids....
Life secret. The most interesting conversationalists are the ones who let you do most of the talking. Learn to ask questions and keep her talking about herself. Don't give her the third degree, just remember that she has important things to say too. And here is another important tip. In a conversation, periods of silence are not death. I am not talking about 10 minutes but you do not need to jump in like a radio announcer every time there is a pause. Reveal things about yourself when it is time. Do not throw your life story and all of your angst on the table over your first burger.
Finally remember that for every person who marries their first love, there are hundreds who don't. Most of them have had experiences like the one you seem to have had. Try to think of it this way. You did not lose. Another guy won. You can't lose something you never had in the first place. If 'she' and the guy stay together you did not lose to an older guy, you lost to the right guy for her. She was obviously not the right girl for you. You'll see.
This is the kind of immaturity that women find completely off-putting. Notice that Misty Tiger jerked a knot in his ass about it right away. I think it is possible to get a girl even if you are boring. You might even get one if you are immature. But you will be highly unlikely to get one if you are disrespectful. At least not one you want for more than a hot minute.
But a lot of the teenage boys I found hopelessly immature and boring.
They also were so scared of girls. No one talks about that but many young men your age Paddy, they just find it hard to strike up conversations with girls...without feeling self conscious. I think older men have more confidence.
Snapdragon said:
It isn't actual age so much as maturity, Paddy.
I, personally, love going out with younger men, but I didn't when I was a girl, as nine times out of ten I found them pathetically immature and boring.
Misty Tiger said:
I have male friends who are in their 40s and 50s mostly. They listen and they keep conversations going. Who likes stiff or dull conversations? Bad conversations are just torture.
Stormsmith said:
No woman is going to date a guy she regards as immature and she sure as hell isn't going to let him in her bed
Ok Paddy. Four women. What is the recurring theme? Boring Immature.
So what do you do about it?
First you have to decide what you are really looking for. Are you just out for any girl who will let you into her bed or are you looking for someone special? I will assume special because if all you want is to get laid, you can spend your date money on a hooker. I did not recommend that you look for the "easy" girls because if you want to be a man you will realize that the easy girls have feelings too and that you are too much of a man to hurt them along with the boys.
So if the deal is that you want a real girlfriend then you have to ask yourself some hard questions. The best question to start with is this: "Of all the things I am interested in and that I bring to the table, what kind of girl would like that?" Perhaps you like plays and theater. Go join a local theater company. You don't have to be an actor, be the prop guy if you like. If you like art, volunteer at an art museum. When you meet a girl there, what can you both talk about? Art. Is it boring? Nope. If the girl thought it was boring, she wouldn't be there. There are clubs or organizations that cater to all tastes. Be sure you genuinely like and want to learn about the one you are considering and go for it.
If I found myself single again, I would do even more charity work. For two reasons. Most importantly it will help others. Then it will help you mature as you see more adult stuff and come to grips with it. As far as meeting women is concerned you will meet kind and generous ones. And they will see you at your most kind and generous. The bonus is that you will not be seen a immature when you are cooking for homeless people (for example) and you will have something in which you are both interested to talk about. You will be working together and conversation is just natural under those circumstances. I have seen this so often. As I type I am thinking about an average looking 5'9" guy who married an over 6' girl (stunning by the way) who he met working at the soup patrol. Outside of the charity there was practically no chance that they would have ever hooked up. Working together, feeding homeless people, they got the opportunity to talk and come to like each other. Love came eventually and then two kids....
Life secret. The most interesting conversationalists are the ones who let you do most of the talking. Learn to ask questions and keep her talking about herself. Don't give her the third degree, just remember that she has important things to say too. And here is another important tip. In a conversation, periods of silence are not death. I am not talking about 10 minutes but you do not need to jump in like a radio announcer every time there is a pause. Reveal things about yourself when it is time. Do not throw your life story and all of your angst on the table over your first burger.
Finally remember that for every person who marries their first love, there are hundreds who don't. Most of them have had experiences like the one you seem to have had. Try to think of it this way. You did not lose. Another guy won. You can't lose something you never had in the first place. If 'she' and the guy stay together you did not lose to an older guy, you lost to the right guy for her. She was obviously not the right girl for you. You'll see.
Jessupjones87 said:
"Why do some girls want older boyfriends?"
Daddy issue's
This is the kind of immaturity that women find completely off-putting. Notice that Misty Tiger jerked a knot in his ass about it right away. I think it is possible to get a girl even if you are boring. You might even get one if you are immature. But you will be highly unlikely to get one if you are disrespectful. At least not one you want for more than a hot minute.
To believe in God is impossible not to believe in Him is absurd.
Voltaire
God is a comedian playing to an audience that is afraid to laugh.
Voltaire
Voltaire
God is a comedian playing to an audience that is afraid to laugh.
Voltaire