Godstud wrote:Are you trying to imply that it's worse to be accused of sexual assault than to BE sexually assaulted?
I was sexually abused one time when I was about 10 by a boy who was perhaps four and half years older than me. I've always been a hundred percent heterosexual. It was a somewhat unpleasant experience, i wasn't raped. It probably had somewhat negative but minor affects on development, but I can only imagine being accused of sexual assault would be a horrendous experience, whether the accusation was completely true, part true or completely untrue. So speaking as someone who has been a victim of sexual assault, I would say yes in some instances being accused of being sexually assaulted can be worse than some instances of sexual assault.
On the other hand if you live / hang out in a misogynist sub culture, then a sexual assault accusation may not be too bad, it could even be seen as a badge of honour. I doubt its a problem if you're a Hells' Angel. There's a guy I know spent some time in a Moroccan prison. There was a guy in prison for having sex with his daughter, the British guy I know was chatting to another Moroccan in the prison. He was angry about it. Angry that the guy who had sex with his daughter had been grassed up by his neighbour, which he thought was a totally unnecessary vindictive act.
There are some people, men and women who do believe that a man is entitled to have sex sex with a woman if she chooses to into private space with him or she gets blind drunk. We've seen them on this forum. But I'm not one of them. I can honestly say that I have never in my life once reproached a woman for sexual promiscuity, even though I've twice had girl friends / partners have sex with my best friend.
Even in bed, us both naked, our bodies entangled, I wouldn't presume an entitlement to sex and if I weren't in an ongoing full sexual relationship, its unlikely that I would initiate sexual intercourse. And that's not just some abstract theoretical scenario that I've never experienced. I don't drink alcohol, take drugs or encourage women to imbibe them.
Its just an unfortunate fact that in many instances sexual assault its very hard to prove or disprove beyond reasonable doubt. If people really cared about reducing sexual assault then they would give up alcohol. If we no longer took alcohol or recreational drugs, sexual assault would not be eliminated but it would be massively reduced. But we don't, because we have many priorities in life. Alcohol causes massive, massive societal damage aside from sexual assault. But I can't expect it to be banned just because I'm not into it. Society is a compromise between our different wants, fancies and predilections. I don't demand that alcohol be banned, but I do demand that in return society respect my right to not take the China virus vaccines even if they consider that course harmful to me and society.