- 06 Dec 2021 18:21
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I don't think that'll fly when I can't even say piss off to students
@tomskunk I tend to find that it's men who read to much into a woman's friendliness as flirting because men are more deprived of positive affirmations than women. So any sort of kindness can easily eacalate into she must like me and so then women soon learn to avoid being too friendly for risking unwanted attention.
Then they also feel pressures often to seem friendly and laugh at things they otherwise wouldn't.
I feel like the average woman isn't so precious and prone to taking any friendliness as harassment and that people aren't so easy to accuse because it is an uncomfortable process for everyone to address. Like the woman who laughs to get through an unwanted interaction, many will put up with things to not rock the boat. And with harassment it has to be continuous rather than one off mistakes, basically crossing inappropriate boundaries consistently.
In my role as a teacher I am more scared id a child lying because they are angry and have no concept of the seriousness of what they allege. But even that concern isn't heavy on my mind. People certainly take precautions with high school students such as never being alone with them.
Overall though I think there must be a way to analyze the fixation on this particular concern. Because while it is in the realm of possibility, having anxiety of it needs some basis for why there is a fixation on this particular thing.
For example a man who is fixated on whether his wife is cheating or not could still have a pathological fixation on the issue even if it turned out his wife was cheating. Because it points to something deeper as to why so much of ones mind ends up concerned with it. Why this occurs is that the truth of the events can become a means to justify untrue beliefs that are implicit.
Rancid wrote:Good to hear. That said, seems like those in fear are those who have more to lose (i.e. people higher up in the company). Maybe these are guilty consciousnesses speaking.
Sidenote, I suggest you call all the women you work with "bitches".
I don't think that'll fly when I can't even say piss off to students
@tomskunk I tend to find that it's men who read to much into a woman's friendliness as flirting because men are more deprived of positive affirmations than women. So any sort of kindness can easily eacalate into she must like me and so then women soon learn to avoid being too friendly for risking unwanted attention.
Then they also feel pressures often to seem friendly and laugh at things they otherwise wouldn't.
I feel like the average woman isn't so precious and prone to taking any friendliness as harassment and that people aren't so easy to accuse because it is an uncomfortable process for everyone to address. Like the woman who laughs to get through an unwanted interaction, many will put up with things to not rock the boat. And with harassment it has to be continuous rather than one off mistakes, basically crossing inappropriate boundaries consistently.
In my role as a teacher I am more scared id a child lying because they are angry and have no concept of the seriousness of what they allege. But even that concern isn't heavy on my mind. People certainly take precautions with high school students such as never being alone with them.
Overall though I think there must be a way to analyze the fixation on this particular concern. Because while it is in the realm of possibility, having anxiety of it needs some basis for why there is a fixation on this particular thing.
For example a man who is fixated on whether his wife is cheating or not could still have a pathological fixation on the issue even if it turned out his wife was cheating. Because it points to something deeper as to why so much of ones mind ends up concerned with it. Why this occurs is that the truth of the events can become a means to justify untrue beliefs that are implicit.
https://www.ethicalpolitics.org/ablunden/pdfs/For%20Ethical%20Politics.pdf#page90
-For Ethical Politics
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