Godstud wrote:@MistyTiger Men don't marry a woman and try to change her. They want the woman as they see her NOW. Women are the ones prone to wanting to change the man.
Find a relationship now, @MistyTiger. The longer a woman puts it off, the harder it will be to get into one. Men do not care about how much education a woman has, or how good of a career she has. That's not what men are after(I am generalizing, of course).
Marriage is scary for men because if/when it ends in divorce, they'll lose most of the things they have worked for and might have to support the woman for the rest of their life.
Thus marriage rages were at an abysmal 6.1/1,000 in 2019 and divorce rates are hovering around 50%. Note: College educated women are responsible for initiating 90% of divorces.
When you marry a man, you inherit a mom inlaw, unless she is dead. Some men are momma's boys and if the mother wants the wife to be a certain way, the man will just agree. I do not want a mother inlaw.
I do not want to be in a relationship because it will be harder to get into one later. I am looking for something specific, not just some man down the street. I refuse to settle. If I settle now, I might want a divorce months later. I know how I am. I can easily lose interest if I do not see something worthwhile. I see a lot of people who are immature and self-absorbed, they are in love with texting and social media. These are not the types I want to tolerate in my own home. At my place, no one can bring any smart device to the dinner table. I need someone who can accept me for how I am, so they need to be very openminded. My future partner should be understanding and very communicative and mature. I doubt I will find this right now. And I am very focused on my improvement now.
I want my career because I want to support myself and I always feel like I want to be strong, proving that I am capable, not just amusing to be around. I also never felt interested in having a child. When I played house as a child, I would play the man's role. I am not the regular housewife type. I am like my father, wanting to learn and face challenges in life and work. My father was not interested in young children so I also get that from him. My mother raised me basically on her own except that my father provided the income. It was hard for her but she did it well. But I do not recommend this style of parenting. I would not make a good mother as I would be preoccupied with financial matters and tech stuff. With me, the man would play the more feminine role, which is funny but the only way it could work. I cannot change myself to be the more maternal type when I have been used to being the stronger type, the guy role. I was never the little princess. It would have been better, if I had been a boy. I think my father would have loved that.
Some guys look at me and assume I have a rich daddy. I do not. If I have a big nest egg, I would not want to share it with just any man. It needs to be one who genuinely cares about me and wouldn't try to kill me in my sleep.