Godstud wrote: No. False. A great many people don't "see" colour because they're not taking it into account when dealing with people. That was the goal of MLK, wasn't it? Whenever people say "I don't see colour.", they actually mean it(in a way where they do not discriminate based on it). But... it doesn't suit the SJW narrative of perpetual victimhood.
Yes, but the point of saying color blindness can be a statement of don’t care to acknowledge how ones demographic difference significantly impacts ones experience of the world as they diverge a great deal. There are many things that are automatic and common to black Americans that aren’t white.
One of my favorite casual examples is this bitby Roy Wood Jr. Where the audience answers for him from 3:40 onwards.
Might one consider that the characterization of it being SJw perpetual victim hold can be a vague nonexplaination to dismiss the likelihood of such a divergent experience based on ones skin color. I say nonexplaination because it seems just a dismissal like me saying some group A is simply stupid and motivated by power or something. It's so abstract that it can apply so broadly that allows one to ignore any specific instance in ones own interactions. We might agree on some points for example but it’ll be sidestepped as a conversation between us to the SJWs or the extremist feminists or whatever vague category that is seen as unreasonable and extreme. An image, a generalization but one not necessarily directly experienced in any significant form other than perhaps online. And not online with people but media platforms with cesspools of trolls and the like.
Women don't carry any more "mental load" than men do. That's a Feminist talking point that's simply a lie they tell to women, as Feminism has done for the last 40 years. Women are suffering more from mental illness because of their choices. The idea that women can be independent, "men are trash", and don't need men, has been pushed by Feminism. It doesn't work in practice. It's hurt women.
Men and women need each other. We compliment each other and the cases of women having higher "mental load" is from the single mothers who chose to be single parents. Women have the choice of whether to have a child, or not. Men do not. Men choose whether or not there's a relationship. Different but equal.
Women have equality with men in Western society, and in most Eastern societies. In fact, I can point you to things showing that they are favoured in the West. Are there exceptions to female equality and racial equality? Of course. There always will be ignorant and uneducated people, who judge on appearances rather than character.
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I will respond to these points and then drop the issue as we've diverged significantly to women’s issues.
But first a lot of people do imagine a sense of equality in their relationships but not by some objective measure, it being more an ideological disposition that approximates the reality.
[url]staff.um.edu.mt/aabe2/S99%20Jamieson.pdf[/url]
Research suggests that the ways in which couples generate a sense of themselves and their partners as mutually caring often reproduce gender inequality – the creativity and intimacy of couples is not yet typically harnessed to gender transformation. Many couples refer to gendering (i.e. underpinning gender difference) structural factors – the vagaries of employ- ment including men and women’s different earnings and prospects in the labour market, the incompatibility of combining the demands of childrearing and full-time employment – as if a traditional division of labour adopted because of such structures beyond their control were therefore exempted from any possible inequality. Many also deploy a variety of gendering but appar- ently gender neutral devices to maintain a counterfactual sense of equality (‘she happens to be better at cooking,’ ‘he doesn’t enjoy cooking as much’).
Basicallymen and women can and do still love each other even if things aren’t equal as they find satisfaction in the relationship still.
And counter to the idea of feminists somehow having a platform of old time lesbian separstists or girl power marketing campaigns of needing no man, real women often do want relationships with men.
But without bothering to find just a study of look here's someone examining how much planning and organizing is done by married women women in a relationship, one could emphasize the intuitive relationship around child rearing and mental load, as well as facing the dilemma of assuming primary responsibility for children to the detriment of other commitments. This is beyond any one I dividuals choice as society is structured to maintain such a gendered division of labor in policy and negatively. Women entering the workforce didn't itself overturn the division of labor that store with industrialization.
https://aifs.gov.au/research/family-matters/no-86/persistent-work-family-strain-among-australian-mothers These results correspond with the findings of Strazdins et al. (2008), which suggest that mothers' employment is conducted in a different "time context" to that of fathers. That is, mothers modulate their work hours according to their children's ages and partner's work, and hold down jobs in the context of having partners with heavy work time commitments. The current study suggests when mothers fall short of adjusting their work hours in response to family and external demands they will risk being able to maintain a work and family life balance as well as their physical and mental wellbeing.
But not all mothers want, or are in the position to be able, to adjust their working hours in response to family and external commitments. Indeed, this research suggests that some mothers, particularly mothers with a strong attachment to the workforce and high job satisfaction, persist to work longer hours while experiencing continuing high work-family tension and a decline in their wellbeing. This indicates that approaches rooted in reduced engagement with the workforce that enables mothers to afford time to take on primary responsibility for family domestic matters is not an adequate solution for all mothers and families. This resonates with findings from recent studies suggesting that the relationship between part-time work and work-family balance is often subject to job context. That is, non-career women gain a far greater benefit from part-time work than professional women whose greater work demands constrain the benefits they derive from part-time schedules (Duxbury & Higgins, 2008; Higgins, Duxbury & Johnson, 2000).
These results suggest that existing approaches, such as part-time schedules, flexible working hours, and attempts to reconfigure the balance of paid and unpaid working hours within couples, need to be complemented with new initiatives.
In conclusion, Australian mothers in recent decades have greatly increased their participation in the labour market. Fathers, however, have not increased their participation in unpaid household work to a matching degree. But, without equal sharing of the dual roles of earner and carer between mothers and fathers, mothers will inevitably feel the work-family tension more keenly. Furthermore, institutional and structural changes supporting mothers' increased workforce participation are few and slow coming. Consequently, working mothers faced with the challenge of reconciling family and work commitments are often forced to find individual solutions. However, work and family life balance is not a problem specific to individual families. Rather, it is a universal problem shared by many families, and as such it requires institutional and structural changes supported by society as a whole.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/sites/default/files/attachments/153068/ogolsky-dennison-monk-2014.pdf Thus, husbands may consider any amount of household labor they do a contribution, character- izing it as “helping” their wives. When husbands believe that they are helping their wives, especially when they compare themselves favorably to their peers (Greenstein 1996a, 2009), they can easily feel disappointment or frustration when per- ceptions of the division are not viewed as such by wives with lower behavioral egalitarianism. Husbands may see their labor as ending when they return home from work, whereas wives may see themselves as having to then start a “second shift” of housework (e.g., ‘9 to 5’ work day for husbands vs. ‘24 hour’ work for wife and mother; see Hochschild and Machung 2003). This disconnect may be reflected in perceptions of marital quality by both parties. If trends in higher cognitive and behavioral egalitarianism continue, yet women are not held accountable for the provider role and men for household tasks, discrepancies in husbands’ and wives’ behavioral egal- itarianism may persist.
https://is.muni.cz/el/1423/jaro2006/SOC118/um/1177980/Dempsey.pdf Many women emphasized that men got the best deal because they were free of responsibility for housework and for caring for children:
Husbands [have the best deal because they] are exempted from responsibility for household chores and jobs to do with the children. (23-year-old salesperson)
Some of these women stressed that housework and childcare entailed emotional and mental work as well as physical work:
They don’t have the full responsibility of running a house like we do. They have their job [paid] and their outside jobs at home, but they don’t have all the men- tal stress and worry of the problems to do with the kids and sorting out differ- ent things in the household. (47-year-old salesperson)
Several women pointed out that they too had a paid job as well as the responsibility at home:
Women have a greater responsibility than men. In today’s society we have to go out to work but when we come back we’ve got the household to look after and the children. We have to think about what is going on tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. We have to plan for the situations that will arise. I have to pre- pare the children’s clothes for the following morning. In my case my husband will do what he is told but he has to be told! (34-year-old flight attendant)
In the justifications they offered for saying men got the best deal, 25 per- cent of the women made a reference to men’s greater freedom:
He’s out of the house because he doesn’t have anything to do at home and he’s mixing with people at work. (30-year-old student)
Some women saw men’s best deal in marriage as one manifestation of their advantaged position in society:
Men get a better deal in life generally. They get more choice over what happens to their bodies. They get better opportunities in their career. As for me, in five years I’ll still be a mother and wife. (27-year-old homemaker)
The above source reflects like the previous article where one only thinks women get a better deal if they assume a traditional division of labor as ideal in the first place. The housewife and male provider and protector. Such a notion is of course criticized by feminists in that it is on that basis of being primarily a housewife that women have been more vulnerable to detriment in their isolation to the home. It's why many of the homeless in Australia are elderly women, with dead or absent husbands and no career of their own with sky ificsnt savings.
I done know one country that I could say negatively or structurally makes it that so men are equally involved in household labor and child rearing planning and responsibilities if not more so. One could point to dead beat mothers but as a social norm I don’t see it.
Anda lot of the harms that a remote detrimental to men are often a reflection of patriarchal norms, it's just that it benefits wealthier men rather than all men. Like legal precedents reinforcing fathers as providers and not nurture where they give custody to a nonbiological father due to wealthoverthe biological. It's not feminist nazis rigging the court but a system that reinforces women as carers of children and men as financial providers.
Too haphazardly are harms to men vaguely implied to be womenor feminism's fault with no rational origin to be found in them.
https://www.ethicalpolitics.org/ablunden/pdfs/For%20Ethical%20Politics.pdf#page90
-For Ethical Politics