[Tainari88]

The couple did divorce, but the marriage lasted long enough to have two kids. They proved that, no matter how much money you have, some people can never have enough.

If they did the Clooney wedding, I guess I would have spent 3 days in a luxurious Italian hotel, but I’m not sure I could bite my tongue that long.

All this cake talk made me hungry for cake. Lol.

[MistyTiger2]

You can get a super fancy wedding of your dreams for about $210,000 pesos. That is super fancy like that video in Mexico. And your entire wedding guests staying in that place, Catered food, liquor music and a dress to die for and flowers...dream wedding Misty. And flights round trip to and from Chicago if you plan it right are cheap. Same for the East Coast.

Stay in the Yucatan and or Q Roo and go to Xcaret for your honeymoon. And done. Perfect deal all around in my opinion.

Those Vegas Weddings are not that cheap Misty. They can cost a bit. Your parents would love something more regal for you. You beautiful woman you!

I don't know what my parents would want for me. I could also have the ceremony in the back yard. I like outdoor weddings. I'm not a big fan of gatherings in rooms where they rely on a ventilation system, which may not be properly maintained. I also don't want to sniff stinky people who may have not washed in days. I'm a snob like that. So old churches are a hard no for me.

I'm not the fancy sort. I believe in efficiency and no frills. I'm not a girly girl at all. A car is more exciting for me than shopping for dresses and makeup.

As for the dress, I'd shop around and find something cute. Long dresses tend to dwarf me, so I'd insist on a tea length or midi length dress. I don't need to sweep the ground with a train. LOL.

I'm not into liquor actually. I would rather have a liquor-free wedding. Also, I've always wanted to be a vegetarian. There would be no meat in any dishes at the reception. I know that Americans love their meat and all. Nope. Asians can be happy with very little meat in their diet.

I also wouldn't want a 3 layer cake. I could arrange for a buffet with some desserts. Maybe a tiny symbolic cake. Cake frosting is often greasy and too sweet. I'm one of those Asians who doesn't like very sweet stuff, even though a lot of sugar cane does come from tropical climates. China, Taiwan, Thailand, Vietnam and Brazil (largest producer of sugar cane in the world) are responsible for much of the sugar produced in the world yet the United States is the biggest consumer of sugar. It's ironic, no?

[Deutschmania]

I chose the first option , as I deem weddings , and in answer to @wat0n 's question to @Tainari88 , engagement rings to be overpriced rip offs . There is no reason for either to be so expensive , not only in regard to labor value , but even pertaining to market value .

[wat0n]

I chose the first option , as I deem weddings , and in answer to @wat0n 's question to @Tainari88 , engagement rings to be overpriced rip offs . There is no reason for either to be so expensive , not only in regard to labor value , but even pertaining to market value .

I don't know about market value, but I do believe we also don't need to spend a small fortune on a ring (which I won't do, but will spend more than I'd like to).

Oh well, it can at least be reused/resold.

[MistyTiger2]

I'd be happy with a cute ring that isn't expensive as hell and isn't made up of dozens of stones. It is a symbol of commitment and love, doesn't need to be huge and flashy. One or two small stones is fine with me. I don't like heavy rings. I actually haven't worn any rings in years. I wouldn't want to lose them in the gym or swimming pool.

[Tainari88]

I don't know about market value, but I do believe we also don't need to spend a small fortune on a ring (which I won't do, but will spend more than I'd like to).

Oh well, it can at least be reused/resold.

The most important thing of all is how you tell her how she makes you feel Wat0n. Como la amas y por qué la amas. That is the essential thing.

I got a lovely blue sapphire ring with gold setting in some Christmas that I can't recall when that was.

I love that ring. Not because it is expensive but because of the sentiment behind it.

Always gift something beautiful and sentimental.

I admired a necklace in the Molina Montes Mansion in Paseo de Montejo. It is an old French style mansion in Merida that is a museum. They have a gift shop in the basement. I saw this necklace on display. It was lovely. Gold bathed necklace with an octopus, turtle, shell, and some nautical themes with aqua green blue jade beading. It had a small red coral flower too...sort of charms on that necklace. I LOVED IT.

I got it for my birthday. It was expensive in the sense that it costs about $250 Dollars US. But I treasure that necklace. I only wear it with a black dress or a white dress. Or a blue dress.

it is a favorite of mine. Not because of the cost but the consideration that my son that is 13 remembered my love for it and got his father to get it for me without telling me.

Those kind of little gestures are wonderful really.

[wat0n]

The most important thing of all is how you tell her how she makes you feel Wat0n. Como la amas y por qué la amas. That is the essential thing.

I got a lovely blue sapphire ring with gold setting in some Christmas that I can't recall when that was.

I love that ring. Not because it is expensive but because of the sentiment behind it.

Always gift something beautiful and sentimental.

I admired a necklace in the Molina Montes Mansion in Paseo de Montejo. It is an old French style mansion in Merida that is a museum. They have a gift shop in the basement. I saw this necklace on display. It was lovely. Gold bathed necklace with an octopus, turtle, shell, and some nautical themes with aqua green blue jade beading. It had a small red coral flower too...sort of charms on that necklace. I LOVED IT.

I got it for my birthday. It was expensive in the sense that it costs about $250 Dollars US. But I treasure that necklace. I only wear it with a black dress or a white dress. Or a blue dress.

it is a favorite of mine. Not because of the cost but the consideration that my son that is 13 remembered my love for it and got his father to get it for me without telling me.

Those kind of little gestures are wonderful really.

That's 100% true! I do find it hard to express or communicate my feelings but believe me any ring will be heartfelt. If we're getting married now, it's for being able to live together. That's what we want and what we'll do.

[Tainari88]

That's 100% true! I do find it hard to express or communicate my feelings but believe me any ring will be heartfelt. If we're getting married now, it's for being able to live together. That's what we want and what we'll do.

Of course any ring will be heartfelt. But if you know her tastes very well? It is going to make a difference. If she likes simple things in simple settings for example? Does she like white gold or platinum? Or can that be replaced by a silver ring with a platinum or white gold wash to make the ring more affordable? You see what I mean?

What kinds of flowers does she love? Make a bouquet happen for her that includes her favorite flowers.

I love Mexico because the clothes designers here LOVE being creative with wedding dresses. And they do everything by hand. To your specifications for the same price as some cheapo off the rack find in a bridal shop in Chicago. You can't beat something that personalized.

Chileans love those wonderful sandwiches you make with mayo--instead of a fancy sit down dinner party you can do an informal sandwich lunch instead or serve Chilean style sandwiches for dinner. And Chile is known for its wines and fruit and seafood. So instead of serving lobster and pricey food? You go for an inexpensive almejitas in white Chilean wine with butter or olive oil and some aromatics. With bread to dip it in there. The kind you both love.

You serve things to your guests that they appreciate. If your parents love this Chilean snack? You include that in there.

Empanadas son deliciosas! You include your favorites. And they are not expensive either.

There is a lot you can do to make something lovely very cheaply.

[AFAIK]

The more expensive the ring the bigger the commitment, Misty. It's easy for a man to walk away from a $100 investment, much harder to walk away from a $10,000 one.

It's my 10 year anniversary next year so I'm gonna buy my wife something expensive. I have no interest in flashy material possessions but it makes her happy. The funny thing is she mostly likes expensive stuff when it's something other people can see like jewelry. All our kitchen appliances are cheap and simple.

[wat0n]

Of course any ring will be heartfelt. But if you know her tastes very well? It is going to make a difference. If she likes simple things in simple settings for example? Does she like white gold or platinum? Or can that be replaced by a silver ring with a platinum or white gold wash to make the ring more affordable? You see what I mean?

What kinds of flowers does she love? Make a bouquet happen for her that includes her favorite flowers.

I love Mexico because the clothes designers here LOVE being creative with wedding dresses. And they do everything by hand. To your specifications for the same price as some cheapo off the rack find in a bridal shop in Chicago. You can't beat something that personalized.

Chileans love those wonderful sandwiches you make with mayo--instead of a fancy sit down dinner party you can do an informal sandwich lunch instead or serve Chilean style sandwiches for dinner. And Chile is known for its wines and fruit and seafood. So instead of serving lobster and pricey food? You go for an inexpensive almejitas in white Chilean wine with butter or olive oil and some aromatics. With bread to dip it in there. The kind you both love.

You serve things to your guests that they appreciate. If your parents love this Chilean snack? You include that in there.

Empanadas son deliciosas! You include your favorites. And they are not expensive either.

There is a lot you can do to make something lovely very cheaply.

We'll probably have some cocktail empanadas. We're not 100% sure yet though.

It's kind of tricky to plan this from another continent.

[ingliz]

@Tainari88

In Malta, we have wedding halls. The happy couple invites as many people as possible, gives them an open bar and appetizers, and asks for money.

[Tainari88]

We'll probably have some cocktail empanadas. We're not 100% sure yet though.

It's kind of tricky to plan this from another continent.

@wat0n I am really good at cooking and entertaining and party planning. I got stuck with those duties for years and years because I made the mistake of helping out at work or school or some organization thing event and they loved everything I did. So every year, they come back to ask me more and more.

One dinner the boss has important people from non profits coming over. She was a damn disaster in the airbnb we were all booked together at....she was supposed to cook for the guests. She burned everything. Spilled the spaghetti on the floor, disaster all around. She started crying. I felt bad for her. So I jumped into action. I got a seven course dinner for 30 done in 3 hours. Everyone loved it. The drinks, the entrees, the starters, the salad, the desserts. The whole thing.

So what happened? Stuck with every event we had. No one wanted someone else.

My little boy had birthdays that I planned for him months in advance. They all were really fun and the food was a hit always.

So, when I was in Mexico with the pandemic and the only birthday I did not plan? Was his eighth birthday. He spent that one with his father. I was busy with stuff in Mexico. His father did his Birthday. My son said it was the worst birthday in his life. I asked him why? Didn't Papi buy you gifts? Yes he said. But Papi sucked at the food, he did not plan the thing well and none of his friends showed up. Just one kid. He said his stuff was unwrapped and the details and the music and theme and venue and everything was wrong and he started crying.

Lol. I am stuck now. I got to plan every event. That is why I am starting to save this year. For a possible wedding in ten to twenty years. By the time he gets married? Who knows if I am still alive eh? If I am? I got the whole deal straightened out for him. He won't be disappointed.

Weddings are very important for the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom. These events are very important for mothers.

My husband just says in Spanish, 'Yo no me acuerdo de todos esos detalles. Mejor se encarga tu madre.' He tells my younger son. Hee hee.

[Tainari88]

@Tainari88

In Malta, we have wedding halls. The happy couple invites as many people as possible, gives them an open bar and appetizers, and asks for money.

Latin Americans and that includes Puerto Ricans and Mexicans Ingliz, the hosts PAY for everything. Everything. The food, the music and the band, the drinks and the entertainment. Everything. And it is expected for you to bring the happy couple a nice wedding gift or money for their new start in life. But if you cannot do that? You still get to go to the wedding reception and bring more guests than originally planned. Usually in Puerto Rican weddings if you invite 150 people plan on 300 coming and make sure you have more food than you can eat. Enough to have the guests take some food with them in plastic containers or cardboard boxes with the groom and bride's wedding date and cute theme stamped on it.

Every event I have attened so far in Mexico for school trips, parties, holidays, fundraisers, weddings, baptisms and birthday parties? Super beautiful with more food than you can possibly eat, beautiful decorations and professional productions.

Latin American parties are out of this world Ingliz.

People truly do have fun at these parties. There is dancing and music and activities and very great ambiance in general Ingliz.

The amount of professional singers in the events I have attended in Puerto Rico? A lot of great music in this city. Havana is close to us. The amount of great Cuban music groups rolling around this city is out of this world.

[Tainari88]

The more expensive the ring the bigger the commitment, Misty. It's easy for a man to walk away from a $100 investment, much harder to walk away from a $10,000 one.

It's my 10 year anniversary next year so I'm gonna buy my wife something expensive. I have no interest in flashy material possessions but it makes her happy. The funny thing is she mostly likes expensive stuff when it's something other people can see like jewelry. All our kitchen appliances are cheap and simple.

Hmm. My husband loves spending big bucks on expensive fancy kitchen appliances and gadgets. He loves that stuff. Simple and cheap is not for him with kitchen gadgets.

Lol. I have a food processor, two Vitamix blenders and a Nutribullet blender, an Italian stainless steel coffee maker stove top. A Nespreso fancy expresso coffee machine and frother, a regular auto brew coffee maker, a Instant pot, rice cooker electronic, a pressure cooker, a toaster, a mandolin slicer and so on and so forth. Does he cook? NO. He does not cook. He wants me to make fancy recipes with all this fancy equipment. But he likes traditional Puerto Rican food. Which all you need is some wooden mortar and pestle called a pilon. And a tostonera and some good knives and a cheap cutting boards. Not all that fancy stuff.

Lol. But in case I get the idea to go gourmet on him? He wants me to have the tools. That is his logic eh? I need him to wash the dishes and help me clean the kitchen and buy the ingredients and prep them. Not buy all this expensive stuff. That is unnecessary for Puerto Rican cuisine.

[Tainari88]

I'd be happy with a cute ring that isn't expensive as hell and isn't made up of dozens of stones. It is a symbol of commitment and love, doesn't need to be huge and flashy. One or two small stones is fine with me. I don't like heavy rings. I actually haven't worn any rings in years. I wouldn't want to lose them in the gym or swimming pool.

you are a great woman. If you get married you should both agree on the venue, costs and details. Start planning a future together darling.

Anyway nothing worst than a spoiled Bridezilla acting entitled. Look at this ungrateful shitty bride. God help the groom that marries her. Horrible person.

I would have let her try to pay her own shit wedding. By herself. Or just deliver the destroyed cake.

[MistyTiger2]

The more expensive the ring the bigger the commitment, Misty. It's easy for a man to walk away from a $100 investment, much harder to walk away from a $10,000 one.

It's my 10 year anniversary next year so I'm gonna buy my wife something expensive. I have no interest in flashy material possessions but it makes her happy. The funny thing is she mostly likes expensive stuff when it's something other people can see like jewelry. All our kitchen appliances are cheap and simple.

Well, I just don't want to be blamed during a fight for the expensive jewelry. I wouldn't wear it even if there was a man foolish enough to throw jewelry at me. If he wants my heart, he could buy me an Italian car and pay for the insurance...as if that would ever happen. I actually have been called a spoiled brat. But I can do without luxury items. I know they would be stolen if I wore them in public.

If a man wants to walk away, let him. Money should not be the reason he stays with me. I want a man who wants to protect me and help me, even if I'm poor or disabled. He must love my personality and my essence...all that I am.

I had a best friend in high school or so I thought. She has ghosted me since we graduated. I think I figured out why so many years later. She wanted me to give her expensive gifts and I didn't. She called me "preppy" and it seemed like a cute nickname, but it wasn't. I was too dumb to realize she had expectations. I didn't think I had to please her. I don't expect gifts from anyone. She showed me that I didn't need her or people like her. She never really liked me.

[AFAIK]

The ring is a sign of his commitment. He isn't staying because he brought an expensive ring, he's buying an expensive ring because he intends to stay.

I'd say respect is the most important thing in a marriage. It's the foundation that sustains everything else and once it's gone the relationship is doomed.