- 21 Apr 2024 19:20
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Pride is a big sin in many religions. People who never can say they are sorry or receive constructive criticism. You can't tell them the truth, can't criticize them with truth and you can't tell them to apologize if they offend others. For them that is humiliation. They do not know how to be humble. Admit fault and say they are sorry.
I have been married for 40 years next month. I got married at age 18. I am 58 years old now. 40 years.
What are the qualities that I have that made that marriage work? Not being prideful and knowing when you are in the wrong telling your husband you were wrong and he was right. And saying I am sorry about being wrong, doubting you, or not giving you the support you needed. It is not your fault. It is my fault. I take responsibility and how can we fix this and make it work? That must have saved my ass countless times in 40 years.
Another quality is not judging others harshly. Being hard on yourself and your own flaws and soft and lenient on the flaws of others. Especially your husband. Who the hell likes being judged harshly by the person you are married to? Judging hard people is terrible. Are you perfect? No. Then why do you expect perfection from your spouse? Who died and made you king or queen of the castle?
Details. Knowing how to make him or her feel good at being with you. You tell them their good points often and you give them positive feedback when they deserve it.
Communicate often and with sincerity. Do not hold grudges. Let the past stay in the past. Do you fight about something? You let the apology mean something and let the damn thing go. Do not drag the past into a new fight.
Fight clean. Do not get personal in some verbal fight. I do not understand women who belittle their husbands with horrible personalistic stuff while they are fighting. Calling them a limp dick, good-for-nothing bum, can't get it up, and useless, etc. And embarrass them in front of their families and co-workers and expect to be forgiven like nothing happened afterward. Your job is to preserve your husband's dignity at all times. At all times. You fail at that? You might as well get a divorce Rancid.
It is not much different for running nations. The people who are prideful and can't take responsibility for what goes wrong and are selfish assholes and have zero respect for the people in their own nation suffering? Kick their ass out of the leadership role. If they can't even do what a good spouse does in a decent marriage? How the hell are you going to pick them as a leader of nations eh?
Rancid wrote:I see the world "humiliation" used a lot in this thread. Tends to be used by right wingers. I wonder if there's some sort of study around the strategies and propaganda around the usage of this word. Of course, this word is part of the historical grievances (real and imaginary), but I wonder if there's something else there.
Pride is a big sin in many religions. People who never can say they are sorry or receive constructive criticism. You can't tell them the truth, can't criticize them with truth and you can't tell them to apologize if they offend others. For them that is humiliation. They do not know how to be humble. Admit fault and say they are sorry.
I have been married for 40 years next month. I got married at age 18. I am 58 years old now. 40 years.
What are the qualities that I have that made that marriage work? Not being prideful and knowing when you are in the wrong telling your husband you were wrong and he was right. And saying I am sorry about being wrong, doubting you, or not giving you the support you needed. It is not your fault. It is my fault. I take responsibility and how can we fix this and make it work? That must have saved my ass countless times in 40 years.
Another quality is not judging others harshly. Being hard on yourself and your own flaws and soft and lenient on the flaws of others. Especially your husband. Who the hell likes being judged harshly by the person you are married to? Judging hard people is terrible. Are you perfect? No. Then why do you expect perfection from your spouse? Who died and made you king or queen of the castle?
Details. Knowing how to make him or her feel good at being with you. You tell them their good points often and you give them positive feedback when they deserve it.
Communicate often and with sincerity. Do not hold grudges. Let the past stay in the past. Do you fight about something? You let the apology mean something and let the damn thing go. Do not drag the past into a new fight.
Fight clean. Do not get personal in some verbal fight. I do not understand women who belittle their husbands with horrible personalistic stuff while they are fighting. Calling them a limp dick, good-for-nothing bum, can't get it up, and useless, etc. And embarrass them in front of their families and co-workers and expect to be forgiven like nothing happened afterward. Your job is to preserve your husband's dignity at all times. At all times. You fail at that? You might as well get a divorce Rancid.
It is not much different for running nations. The people who are prideful and can't take responsibility for what goes wrong and are selfish assholes and have zero respect for the people in their own nation suffering? Kick their ass out of the leadership role. If they can't even do what a good spouse does in a decent marriage? How the hell are you going to pick them as a leader of nations eh?
La historia de mi amor
se pudiera encontrar
en cada corazón,
en cada soledad.
Silvio Rodriguez
se pudiera encontrar
en cada corazón,
en cada soledad.
Silvio Rodriguez