FiveofSwords wrote:I guess that depends on what you think the american dream is'. If it is just about overcoming poverty and making yourself some money...yeah you can do that. If you have rudimentary intelligence and discipline it is not difficult. But actually...that was always the case. The only places in history where that might be unusually difficult would be, ironically, in communist countries.
What you won't get in the current usa, however, is a reason to live. There is nothing to inspire people and nothing great to achieve. So people would rather just spend their time doing drugs or playing video games. That is what is lacking today.
The reason to live often has to do with the community and how strong it is. If you feel you are a part of a community that cares about you deeply and that your contributions are important. When you feel you can make a difference in that society in a positive way--you can achieve a sense of doing something beyond yourself.
It is about values and how you live your values in life Five.
You will find the right people to serve if you have great values. That is the key. Serve others beyond yourself. If society promotes materialism, greed, and consumption as the overriding value and you can't achieve that? And on your way to getting your material dream you wind up not putting much time or energy into serving a greater good? It all feels futile. It always will.
The reality is that struggle and serving others in society while being able to create and manifest your own dreams also? It is the key to being a realized human being. Use your talents to benefit society and serve society. Serve others always.
How to do that? Choose something you care about and love and serve organizations that make that happen in your own society.
It can't be fear-based. It has to be love-based and caring-based.
Also, too many people neglect self-care. Without staying healthy with a good diet, exercise, time for relaxation, and doing activities you have always loved to do? it is easy to fall into despondency, lack of hope, and depressive states.
Good habits go a very long way in feeling good. Sleep your eight to ten hours a night. Go to bed early, wake up early, make your bed, clean your room. Sounds like some old mom's advice but it works.
Keep good grooming habits. Eat your meals at the kitchen table with other members of your family or household members. If at work sit and eat and chat nicely with your co-workers. Ask neutral questions about them and be nice.
Spend time meditating or in silence and in reflection. Read books of interest. Watch a good movie once a week at the movie theater and do not cook that night only.
Go for long walks.
Live near a body of water and go there regularly, admire nature, trees and so on.
Remember the wonders of being with loved ones in the past, and the present. Do you remember all the great things they said to you or did with you and how that made you feel? Remember that. Always.
Use your thoughts to make plans and goals become reality.
Set a goal to visit a city or town or place you always wanted to visit but never could do that before?
If you learn something new once a day you feel like you are getting somewhere too. Learn something new every single day if you can.
Love life. That is your number one goal. Death is coming for sure. What are you going to take with you when Death arrives? Lament the time you spent on Earth with lost opportunities or rejoice in all the good times and good things you will take with you when you leave eh?